Pure In Mind - The Thought Training

Love Your Neighbor, as Yourself. We all know this parable we can find more times in the Bible (example Mark 12:30,31). But what most people overlook here is the commandment: "AS YOURSELF"! This means that first we have to learn to love ourselves before we are able to love and understand others.

To love our self has nothing to do with selfishness or vanity. It is the deep, infinite respect for our Eternal Self, where we come from, for who we are, for what we do, how we do things and how we are trying to do our best to learn in our earth life. And we can find ANY wisdom whenever we need. All we have to do is to ask God with all our heart and all our mind for it. (James 1:5,6)

I believe that every human being, according to their knowledge, is giving its best. Believes, behavior patterns and thought patterns of our parents, society, relatives and friend-circles had an influence on us. Just as our parents were influenced by their parents, etc. Everyone is trying to do the best to pass on of their knowledge and belief traditions and patterns of life.

We all make progress and gain wisdom in our lives. Our parents are not to blame because they have taught us something "wrong", as well as their parents are not to blame. We all are here to learn. People are not basically "evil". They usually act like they have seen and learned in the past. Perhaps they never experienced true love and security for their own, or they have been embittered by disappointments they had to suffer.

Love heals everything

I had bitter experiences in my previous marriage and often I was very unhappy with my own decisions in life, although I was always convinced to have acted properly and that I suffered too much, but for some reason I felt "unacceptable", "bad", "not able to get a partnership upright", "I failed again", "I 'm bad or not enough". I had the old adage of my grandmother in my ears saying: " Solely women are responsible for the happiness of the family"! What a nonsense, I have to confess today!

Then there was the example of my parents. My mother and we children had to endure so much mental suffering and I asked my mother over and over why she is not asking for the divorce. In this sense she was a bad example for me and this had also affected my relationships, because I swore I never want to suffer something like this.

It was a lesson I had to pay and today I am glad to be formed from these experiences. I would never be the person I am today. When relationships are making sick, then you have to do something about it. This doesn't mean all the time a divorce. Under "do something", I mean, rather, "doing something for yourself," "changing something YOU can change," when the last way out is the separation, then that's perfectly fine. Everyone can only change them self, NEVER the other person. If we try, we'll bitter fail, because nobody likes to be changed. Everyone wants to be loved and accepted like he is!

My boss has to change because he is... My father has to change, because... If my color wouldn't be black I could... And so on. And we believe our life gets better. But it doesn't work in this way. When we change OUR viewpoint, all around us becomes more livable and nice.

All we need is unconditional love for our self. This means to feel no lack of anything. You feel completely comfortable and loved. You'll develop your own understanding for your behaviors, even they were not right. This understanding is necessary to be sincere towards our self, that we'll never be perfect. We'll always make mistakes. And it is allowed to make mistakes. And it is useful to make mistakes.

YES! That's just the learning process. "No master is still fallen from the sky." This is a very wise old saying. If we learn to accept and to love ourselves day by day, then we are gaining the necessary understanding for the processes of development. And, behold, this enables us to understand other people, maybe they just made the same mistake. Important in such situations is the personal forgiveness. I HAVE to forgive myself and others if I want to be happy and healthy.